“The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have often turned away from the exploration and consideration of the erotic as a source of power and information[…]The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire.”— Audrey Lorde

This tools are the excuse to talk about the “taboo” of female sexual pleasure in Latin America. (Latin America because I am more familiar with it’s cultural elements not necessarily because it does not exist else where). It started when I realized I felt unconfortable when my toddler-daughter was exploring her body.

So it got me thinking on female sexual pleasure in different scenarios. Does making up headaches sounds like a popular joke? Maybe it says something about the inability to talk to our partners about what brings us pleasure?

So, I asked if people thought female sexual pleasure was a taboo, here are the results:

Most of the answers came from MEN
ALL except one said NO
ONE man said YES

Only 3 women answered.
TWO said YES
ONE said NO, BUT…added that we need to talk more about it.

I guess we do need to talk more about it. We can start by calling body parts by their name: an arm is an arm, a knee is a knee; as the vulva is the vulva, not front butt, your parts or any other name. (Also, vigina and vulva are not the same thing ;)) I know this is changing but, let’s know our bodies and let our dotters know thier own bodies without shame. So they can own it, care for it, honor it and enjoy it.


In one of the last conversations I had with my grandmother about this project before she passed; she told me/feedback/told-off that if I was doing monuments of penis in a world where millions suffer sexual abuse and violence, then she would not support it. I couldn’t agree more with her.

The shape follows a function and ergonomics of people with vagina and it was never intended to look like or substitute a penis ( that’s why non of them are skin color for starters). Another important difference is that penises come attached to a person and this is all about self love.


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